Reblogged with permission from "The Honey Badger Radio official Facebook group"
I am not the typical woman you see posting up pictures and declaring
she doesn't need feminism. I considered myself a feminist for 30 years.
Like most women who consider themselves feminists, I didn't read
feminist literature or take women's studies courses. I just believed it
was about equality.
I believed, and still do, that women are as
intelligent and capable as men and should have equal rights and
opportunities. That is what I thought feminism was all about.
In June of 2013 my boyfriend was driving me to work. We
were pulled over by the Ashland Police and he was arrested for rape,
cuffed, and thrown in the maximum security rape tank at the Jackson
County Jail on a $1 million bail. It seems there had already been a
secret grand jury that had indicted on just the testimony of his
I was completely aware of the allegations. His
father's now ex wife, Lisa, a mentally ill woman with a history of false
reporting, was doing it to punish his father. It turns out the judge
in the divorce had already dismissed her claims against her husband of
sexually abusing the chihuahuas. Now she was going after Greg to hurt
She had told a friend that if she “didn't get the house, the
boat and the dogs in the divorce she would destroy” his father's life
by claiming that he had raped her.
I sprung into action. After
alerting work to the situation, I drove home to start making phone
calls. A terrible mistake had been made. I believed that I could get
them the information and he would be released. I was wrong.
First, what I found out is that the police had not done an
investigation. When Greg found out what Lisa was claiming, he
immediately contacted the police. It took weeks for them to get back to
He went down and told the detective in charge what had and had
not happened. There had never been any sex, consensual or otherwise.
Greg gave him a list of witnesses and informed him of her mental illness
and the fact that she was on a list of psychotropic drugs. No
witnesses were ever contacted.
How does this happen? How does a
completely innocent man, with a completely clean record and no evidence
that a crime was committed end up being thrown in jail and held on an
enormous bail? We thought it must be complete incompetence. We were
It turns out the Ashland Police Department was rolling
out a new program. It is called You Have Options and it is being widely
celebrated and implemented in police forces nation wide. Under this
program the police act more as rape crisis counselors than detectives.
They blindly believe the accuser1, allow the accuser to decide how much
of an investigation takes place, if any.
It also allows the accuser to
decide if the witnesses or the accused are interviewed or informed of
the charges. If Greg's father had not alerted him to what she was doing
he might not have been aware of it until they were arresting him.
In the week after Greg's arrest I did the investigation the police
should have done. I found Lisa's daughter, who was willing to testify
for the defense on Lisa's multiple false accusations. I had established
that Lisa was not even in the state at the time she claims the assault
happened (two years prior), and I got a letter from a friend of Lisa's
who claimed that Lisa had premeditated the false allegation to punish
Greg's father in the event she did not get what she wanted in the
I found a lot of exculpatory evidence and got it to the
police. Making matters worse, in that first week I was also fired from
the job that I loved and was given no explanation. It would all be
worth it if I could get Greg out of that horrible place. The detective
put together a report and delivered it to the DA who promptly ignored
It turns out that Oregon has hearsay exception laws that
allow for the indictment for rape on just the accusers testimony if
there is no other evidence and if there is no reason to question that
testimony. By not doing an investigation the police managed to avoid
all the evidence and all the reasons to question her claims, and as a
safety net for the DA, just in case they are completely wrong, and
destroying innocent people's lives, the DA gets the grand jury to give
This is a recipe for disaster. No accountability.
Fortunately, Greg got an amazing public defender. She uncovered the
fact that Lisa had claimed that Greg had been molesting her for years
and it was all in her psychiatric report. The police had requested that
report over a year ago and the DA was still waiting for it. When the
report finally arrived, 53 days after Greg had been incarcerated and the
day before jury selection, there was absolutely no mention of it. Lisa
had made it up and lied to the grand jury, a felony. The charges were
“dismissed in the interest of justice.” Greg was released and I had him
That is when the real learning began. At this point I
still believed that feminism was about equality. If feminists knew this
was happening they would be concerned, too.
Again, I was wrong.
Feminists asked us not to come forward with the story. They did not
want other women to be discouraged from coming forward. The DA chose
not to file charges against Lisa stating that “Just as Hartley is
innocent under the law because of his constitutional protections, so,
too, the same presumption of innocence applies to his accuser” "How
would we prove it? There was no confession or recantation."
the only time they will consider it a false report is when the accuser
actually recants and confesses to the crime? The only evidence there
had ever been of a crime in this case was of her filing a false report
and committing perjury before a grand jury. No wonder they get to claim
that false reporting is rare. What is really rare is women admitting
they falsely accused innocent men.
Apparently we were supposed to
go home and try to get on with our lives. We were supposed to pretend
it never happened. The state, the city, and police refuse to
acknowledge what happened. It wasn't their fault. There would be no
justice. At least Rolling Stone admitted their mistake and apologized.
We can not even get them to acknowledge we exist.
on social media like a storm. Surely those good people on Huffington
Post, Raw Story, Salon, among others would care that this was happening.
False reporting is not only horrendous for the accused it makes it
harder for actual rape victims to get justice.
The response was being
called a traitor to my gender, to be told I was internalizing my
misogyny. I actually had a feminist threaten to destroy my life and
contact my employer to get me fired. Jokes on her; I had no job.
Most of the feminists who bothered to listen, came back with attacks.
My boyfriend should learn to control himself. I calmly explained he had
done nothing wrong. They could not hear it. Feminists repeat the lie
that false reporting is rare often enough that they blindly believe it.
Even when the cases that feminist journalists use to prove that there is
a rape crisis end up being false reportings, they still either choose
to believe the accuser, despite evidence they are lying, or claim that
at least they brought attention to the problem. They are so blinded they
cannot even admit that a crime with actual victims has been committed.
The common narrative among feminists is that women do not lie about
rape. They also charge anyone who bothers to question the veracity of
those claims with victim blaming. There have been recent protests at
Berkley and Ohio University against affording the accused due process.
These feminists feel that since women do not lie about rape, we should
just be able to assume that all accused are guilty.
There is absolutely no concern that innocent lives may be destroyed.
When the Rolling Stone came forward with an apology over the article on
the UVA Gang Rape, which also ended up being a false reporting, their
was a tremendous outrage.
Feminists were not angry because innocent men
were falsely accused and had their reputations damaged.
They were not
angry because a woman had committed the crime of false reporting.
were angry that Rolling Stone followed this narrative and inadvertently
exposed the fact that women do, in fact, lie about rape.
The fact that
there were actual victims of the false reporting is not even mentioned.
Not only did they not care about the victims of false reporting, they
flatly refused to admit that they even existed.
local monthly publication was willing to cover our nightmare and wrote
an amazing story, but people needed to know about this outside of our
little valley though. The You Have Option program responsible was being
outsourced to other states. It was a finalist for the Webber Seavey
award for Quality in Law Enforcement.
Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand was
promoting it to Congress as a solution to the rape crisis and was using
it as the model for the Campus Accountability & Safety Act (CASA)
program. I wrote articles and letters to every media outlet I could
find contact information for, from DemocracyNow to FOX news.
[Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand continues to support false rape accuser Emma Sulkowicz, despite her exposure as a fraud]
no one was interested in covering the story. How could they continue to
claim that false reporting was rare if they acknowledged it was
The bigger question we should all be asking is, if
there is indeed a rape crisis and if false reporting is so rare, why is
it these journalists who are intent on exposing the rape crisis keep
exposing false reportings and can not seem to find an actual rape?
What I learned in those first months was that feminism was not
interested in equality. Feminism is a profoundly dishonest ideology
that puts forth dishonest studies designed to get the results they want.
Feminists attack anyone who even attempts to point out its
shortcomings and hypocrisy. Feminism is in no way interested in the
truth. And feminists are completely unconcerned with the injustices
suffered by the falsely accused, all while claiming that they are
fighting for men's rights as well.
I am a strong intelligent
woman who fights for equality. I am an educated, a middle aged, hairy
legged, liberal, hippy.
I thought I was a feminist.
I was wrong.
1[editor's note: this is promoted by the VAWA using the Duluth Model, which automatically presumes any accused man as guilty